The House of Many Doors, Prologue

I can feel the scratchy threads of the worn gray and pink floral rug in Aunt Carmella’s room digging into my bare feet as I stare out the window over the open lid of Aunt Carmella’s cedar chest. Aunt Carmella’s room is at the front corner of our house, with two windows behind the trunk facing the busy main street and one window opening onto the side street. I tip my head from side to side, following the track of Aunt Carmella’s pointing finger. I need to be sure of the exact spot.

It is one of the days when Aunt Carmella has given in to my pleading to PLEASE go through her cedar chest with her. It is where she keeps all her treasures, and I love nothing more than hearing her tell the story behind each one. Today, in a small shoebox full of photos, we come across a picture of a boyish Uncle Charlie in his World War I Navy uniform. Charlie was one of Grandpa’s brothers, my great-uncle.

Domenico Mecca, Grandpa and Uncle Charlie’s father, had immigrated to Dunmore, a small coal-mining town in Northeastern Pennsylvania, from the southern Italian village of Avigliano in 1902 at the age of forty, leaving his wife and children behind. Four years later, he had saved enough money to pay for his family’s passage to America. In 1906, Domenico’s wife

Catarina and their five children joined him in Dunmore, including my eighteen-year-old grandfather, Antonio. The family first settled in Dunmore’s Hill Section, where almost all the Italian immigrants lived. In 1917, Domenico completed construction of the house at 401 East Drinker Street. It is the Mecca family homestead, known simply as 401. It is the house where my father was born in 1921 and lived until he died. It is the house where I was born in 1958 and spent my childhood.

I always believed that 401 contained more doors than any other house of its size. My great-grandfather had purposely designed the house with many doors, some at unexpectedly odd angles, so that the layout of the living space could be reconfigured to accommodate the growing and changing extended family that would live there. The upstairs room where Uncle Charlie lived as a bachelor in the 1920s was my father’s bachelor room in the 1940s. In the 1970s, it was our TV room. The same room where I crawled into bed with my mother in the morning after Dad left for work was the room where Aunt Carmella and Aunt Katy buttoned up their black leather shoes and yanked at the cotton stockings that always seemed to pool at their ankles.

I am probably about ten years old the day Aunt Carmella and I find the old picture of Uncle Charlie in his World War I uniform in her trunk. He had died a few years earlier at the age of sixty- seven. I knew him, but only as an old man; Aunt Carmella grew up with him in this house. He was her favorite uncle when she was a little girl. Aunt Carmella holds the photo carefully by one corner as she runs her finger over Uncle Charlie’s youthful face. I want to reach for the picture but wait until she looks up.

“Oh, I loved Uncle Charlie,” she says, as she hands me the photo.

“Was he in the war?” I ask.

“He went to training camp, but the war was over before he had to go overseas.” She pauses and turns to look out the window. “That’s what is so sad.”

“What do you mean? I thought he was OK.”

“Oh, not Uncle Charlie. My grandmother, your great- grandmother Mecca, Charlie’s mother.” Her eyes get that look they always get when she is about to tell a story, like she is rewinding a reel in her head. I wait.

“I never knew my Grandma Mecca,” she continues. “She died a year before I was born.” Aunt Carmella lets her lids close slowly, takes a breath, then looks me in the eye and continues, “of a broken heart.” Circling her head around the room as if she is looking for a ghost, she adds, “This was her room.”

Then Aunt Carmella tells me the story. Uncle Charlie was drafted in June 1918, a few months after he turned twenty-one. He went to boot camp, then was home for a few days before he had to report to a Naval base in Cape May, New Jersey. From there, he would be shipped overseas. Aunt Carmella and I stare at the photo in her hand. On October 22, 1918, he put on his Navy-blue service uniform, the one he is wearing in the picture, said goodbye to his mother, and went out to get the streetcar to Lackawanna Station in Scranton.

Aunt Carmella points out the window towards the grassy triangle separating Drinker and Harper Streets. “See that triangle?” she asks.

“Yes.”

“Well, that used to be a streetcar stop. Streetcars used to go up and down Drinker Street, all the way to downtown Scranton. You could get anywhere on the streetcar. Scranton was one of the first cities to have all electric streetcars. We were famous!”

I look out at the busy street and wonder what it would have been like to clank along on silver tracks in the middle of Drinker Street. Dad told me how he and his boyhood buddies used to hop

on the backs of the cars to hitch a free ride. The grimy and smelly COLTS buses that stop in front of our house now could not compare to my romantic vision of a streetcar.

“Well, Uncle Charlie walked out the front door and down to the streetcar stop. Grandma Mecca could see him from this window. She stood here watching him until he climbed up into the streetcar.” She turns to look at the bed behind us. “Then she lay down in that bed and never got up again. She died five days later.”

I peer over the top of the open trunk, trying to lock my eyes on the place on the island where the streetcar stop might have been. I want to stand where Great-Grandma Mecca stood as she looked out on the world for the last time. I know now that Great- Grandma Mecca most likely died of the Spanish flu. But stories, especially family stories, are their own truth. In our family’s story, she died of a broken heart.

I squint into the afternoon sun, staring at the crooked telephone pole that stands just about where Uncle Charlie stood as he waited anxiously for the streetcar, feeling his mother’s eyes burning into him but not daring to look back. As I recreate her gaze, I wonder how long she stood in this exact spot, watching the streetcar, and her son, disappear down Drinker Street.

Aunt Carmella puts her arm around me, but I do not turn to look at her. I want to know what if feels like when your heart breaks.

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Great-Uncle Charlie and Great-Grandma Mecca are just two characters in the storied history of this house. I am another. So many Meccas superimposed upon one another, layer upon layer, in this space.

Growing up in this house, every space I entered, every wall and window and banister I touched, connected me to those who

had come before. Every door in this house of many doors whispered secrets and I was compelled to listen. Relatives who had long since moved on from this house were still here in the worn spots on the front porch steps and the indentation in the wall left by a doorknob after an angry slam. They were in the knicks in the porcelain sink and the stains in the clawfoot tub. They were in the creaks in the floors and the frayed ropes in the double-hung windows.

Behind every door in this house of many doors was a story, a relative known or unknown, a piece of my history.

There is another house three miles away in the city of Scranton. It was built by the Hudson Coal Company and rented to miners’ families. My mother’s father had immigrated from Germany in 1923. Her mother followed in 1925. They lived first in Western Pennsylvania, where my mother was born in 1926, then moved to a house at 601 Mary Street in Scranton in 1932. It was my mother’s home until she married my father in 1954 and moved to 401. The four-room house where my mother grew up was barely big enough for the family, which consisted of my grandparents, my mother, and her two siblings. I never saw the house on Mary Street, never even drove by it, while my mother was alive. But its stories are no less real than Great-Grandma Mecca’s broken heart.

Two houses. Two nationalities. Two cultures. Two religions.

Two families.

I want to honor the hopes and dreams, the work and the play, the hardships and the laughter, the tragedies and the triumphs of the people in those two families. Some of them I have known in life, some only in story, some through the mystery of the ties that bind us across generations. Traveling from their homelands of Italy and Germany at the beginning of the 20th century, my refugee ancestors made their way to America with

little more than hope. I am the beneficiary of that hope. Theirs are the stories of America; but they are above all their stories— unique and precious, holding truths we need to remember, holding the seeds of who we have become as a family and as a country.

This book is the result of my journey to learn their stories. As I opened one door after another, I found more than I had imagined. People I thought I knew came to life in new ways. People I never knew took shape. They revealed themselves to me and allowed me to step into their shoes. Truths were revealed and idols toppled. The human beings who stand in their place are even more worthy of awe. In their imperfections and secrets is their humanity, grander than any idol.

I hold their stories as a sacred trust.

Ten Reasons Why I Hang Out at Panera

1. The comfy chairs.

There are two worn leather chairs, just inside the entrance, around the corner on the left. I prefer the one by the window, but either will do. The backs are just the right angle for sitting comfortably with my legs crossed and the arms are just the right height for holding my elbows while I work on my laptop. When I need to stare off into space, as I often do when I get stuck with something I’m working on, I just need to gaze to my left out the window, beyond the Chipotle parking lot. There is a ridge line to the North, not unlike those that edge the neighboring Finger Lakes. From the its hilltop perch, the floor to ceiling window mostly reveals a vast skyscape. The scenes are often dramatic. I can watch storms rolling in from the North, swaths of gray that coalesce into a black mass. Sometimes they pour down rain, blurring the window. Other times they roll right past, the blue rising up from the horizon like paint spilling upside-down from the hilltops. On hot summer days, I can bask in the burning sun while keeping cool inside, though I keep a sweater in my car for days when the A/C turns into an Arctic blast from the fans above my chair. In winter, I can watch the flakes pile up on Grant Avenue at the base of the hill. That’s usually when my husband calls, urging me to come home. But the swirling skyful of white is just too beautiful and mesmerizing. I’ll get another cup of coffee and take my chances later.

2. A bottomless coffee cup.

I have signed up for Panera’s monthly plan which gives me unlimited beverages 365 days a year. I’m afraid Panera is not making much on me, though I do order breakfast or lunch occasionally.

3. Real food.

As advertised, Panera’s food is fresh and clean. My breakfast choice is either the steel-ground oatmeal with strawberries (I skip the pecans to eliminate some calories) or the multi-grain bagel flat, sliced, with chive and onion cream cheese. It’s about half the calories of a regular bagel and toasts to a lovely crunch. For lunch, I skip the sandwiches (most over 1000 calories) and opt for soup or salad with an apple for my side. I only splurge on the usual baguette side for the French onion soup so I can dip the bread in the broth.

4. The drive.

Since we moved to Auburn from the Boston area, we have been amazed at how scenic every drive is. We turn out our driveway and are in picture-perfect rolling farmland. But then there is “The Arterial” and Grant Ave. The quickest route to Panera is on these busy, commercials streets, but I recently discovered a back way to Panera that makes the drive a little longer but oh-so-much more pleasant. It even include a quirky farm with a big red barn and fake animals!

5. Getting work done.

Whether I’m working on my writing, paying the bills, or researching something on the internet, I am able to concentrate here in a way that is impossible at home, even if I am alone in a quiet room. I am somehow able to tune out the background music, noisy customers, and beeping alarms and tune in to the work at hand. I can’t get distracted from it because there is nothing else I can do here. Except of course for . . .

6. People-watching.

The variety of customers is astonishing. From octogenarians to infants on their first outing to a restaurant, the parade in and out is colorful and diverse. And I have the perfect vantage point from my corner by the window. Only a few tables hidden behind the fake-stone wall with the fireplace curiously set at eye level mar my view of the entire dining room. The large table right in front of me hosts a regular breakfast group of Baby-boomers. Sometimes I overhear bits of conversation, but I don’t really tune in, even though one male voice is so deep and resonant that it is hard to ignore. I wonder how they met, what their connection is, what common past compels them to stay closely connected. The large table further back often hosts meetings of various sorts, usually more women than men. Are they working on a candidate’s campaign? Planning the next fundraiser for their church? Gathering information to present at the next City Council meeting? Tables of two host managers interviewing candidates, tutors working with students, women catching up on one another’s lives, couples taking a break from their phones to share some time together, and sponsors meeting with men and women in recovery. There are times in my life when I have been half of each of these pairs. I’ve also seen many families, mostly moms with kids, probably because I am here during the day. Toddlers often love the smile of a stranger, but they make me feel guilty when I need to drop out of the endless smile volley. The groups often include three generations, sometimes four, with the youngest member the focus of all the attention. It’s fun to guess who looks like who and to wonder whether any are adopted, as my own children are.

7. The staff.

Relentlessly friendly, most of the staff know me by name and I know some of theirs. We all know that we, the regulars and the staff, are part of the same family.

8. The regulars.

Margaret: Margaret is here every day. She picks the same small two-seater table. Regulars always choose the same spots, unless they are not available. Don’t even get me started on what happens when one of my chairs is not available. (OK, I’ve started already).

Digression: My reaction to my seats being taken depends on my mood. On a bad day, when I am really needing some Panera time, this situation causes a physical sensation of panic. Often I leave immediately and try to hold back tears until I get in the car. Of course, a large part of me wants to stare down whoever is in my seat, willing them to leave, but luckily I have resisted this temptation. (Except maybe for a quick petulant look that might move a very emotionally intelligent person. This rarely works). Sitting at a regular table is simply not an option for me on a bad day. It’s comfy chair or nothing. Recently, I realized the Starbucks down the street also has comfy chairs. Sometimes I will turn on my heel and head there, but it is just not the same. The new Roast and Toast also has comfy chairs, but it’s too big a risk—they are usually taken. On a good day, turning the corner to see my chairs taken still pulls me up short. The disappointment is profound, but I am not completely disabled by it. I am able to take a deep breath and consider my options. I actually have a list, including hours of operation, of “comfy chair cafe’s” from Geneva to Syracuse. They’re a fine alternative occasionally, but a longer drive and none has all of the advantages of Panera. Some days I can even sit at a regular table, but it must, of course, be one that faces my chairs!

Now back to Margaret . . . She always has a book to read. I’ve never gotten close enough to actually read the title, but they appear to be works of popular fiction. Sometimes we chat, sometimes it’s just a quick hello. One year my husband and I ran into her and her husband at the New York State Fair. Dick comes in occasionally to join her and always says hello. Margaret has speaking relationships with more regulars than I do. There are a lot of regulars I know by face but not name. We greet one another with a nod and a smile, sometimes a “How are you?” but somehow we are past the point where we can ask one another’s names.

Name Unknown. One of these nodding acquaintances became a speaking friend when he one day answered my “How are you?” honestly. He had just had a cancer treatment. I could tell he was feeling low and he seemed to want to talk.  As he told me a bit about his recurring brain cancer, his mood seem to lift. He was genuinely appreciative of my interest and concern. As he raised a hand in goodbye, he said, “Well, whatcha gonna do?” and left with a shrug and smile. Whenever I see him now, I ask him how he is in a tone that lets him know I am truly interested. 

 Jim. I call Jim “my Panera husband” though I think he may be uncomfortable with that moniker. He’s also a comfy chair sitter, so when he is here we share the comfy chair corner. Over time, we have talked more and more and found much we have in common. We talk politics and shows we’ve been streaming. I have often shared info I discovered while researching my book, including showing him pictures of my family. He’s shared with me about his family, including kids and grandkids. His wife Mary also comes in, usually separately, and I have gotten to know her a bit as well. A few years ago, when Jim had not been in for a while, our family of regulars found out that his daughter had died. We were all shocked and saddened. We had a feeling of helplessness, being only “Panera friends.” I reached out with a sympathy card, and when he started coming in again, we were able to talk about his loss. I see him and Mary at events around town (we seem drawn to the same sorts of events) and they both came to my book reading at the library. Are we really only “Panera friends”?

Paul and Steve. Paul and Steve are both tall, with sturdy builds, square jaws, and winning smiles. They are probably in their early fifties. Handsome. I often find them occupying the two comfy chairs. The first few times, I didn’t hide my disappointment and took a seat facing them, waiting for them to leave (unless it was a bad day when I turned on my heel to cry in the car). One day, they offered to give up the seats. “Do you want to sit here?” they asked, moving to get up. “OH, no, please. It’s fine. I do love those chairs, but I’ll be fine.” This was not what I wanted to do, but how could I be anything but kind in response to their kindness? “I’m Steve,” one of them offered, “and this is Paul.” I tried to register their names in my brain as I introduced myself. Gradually our conversations grew longer as we repeatedly intersected at the chairs. I wondered about their friendship and the regularity of their meetings. Sponsor and sponsee? They both laughed easily and our “war” over the seats became a private joke between us. Somehow I no longer felt so bad when they got to the chairs first. How could I? We were friends now.

Kurt. As soon as he walked in and joined me in the second chair, I knew Kurt was an artist, or at least a creative person of some sort. He wore a rakish beret and the vest over his loose white shirt was colorful. Maybe an African print? As he asked if he could join me, his smiling face was open, even inviting. He just seemed like someone I could talk to, someone I would have something in common with, though I didn’t yet know what it was. I run into Kurt every six weeks or so, and each time we learn more about one another.  Musician and psychotherapist are among the hats he wears. He owns a barn a bit south of here that he and his partner have turned into an arts center where artists of all kinds can go to work on their projects. I told him I would go there to continue work on my book if only it had a comfy chair (it doesn’t). I still plan to stop there some day. Kurt’s partner teachers at the University of Nebraska Omaha, the same school where I got my MFA in Creative Writing a few years ago. One day I was attending a meeting about a new community initiative to address the homeless problem in Auburn, and there was Kurt! So many points of intersection.

Linda and Mike. Linda has chin length hair a delicate shade of red that she wears curled softly under. She is slight of build, but seems strong. She comes in often with Mike, a tall, dignified man with blond-gray hair who seems to favor nautical attire. We had a nodding acquaintance for a while until one day on her way in Linda asks me what I am working on and we talk about the book. We introduce ourselves, then I ask what her husband’s name is while he is parking the car. “That’s not my husband,” Linda shoots back, “that’s my son.” I had them both down for late sixties, early seventies so this didn’t make sense. “I’m ninety-nine,” she tells me with a smile, clearly proud of her longevity. Now we greet one another whenever they come is and usually have a short conversation. Linda loves to tell me what she’s been doing or planning to do: cooking a lamb dinner, weeding the garden, walking in Hoopes Park, cleaning the floors, taking their beagle Trixie, who they adopted a few years ago, to the vet. Right after they adopted her, Linda shared photos of the oddly cute pup. For holidays, Linda and Mike go to an elegant colonial restaurant one town over. It seems to be just the two of them. Linda’s husband is dead, and Mike is an only “child.” I’ve been tempted many times to invite them to join us, but haven’t yet. They live in a stately white house with black shutters right near the park. Every year, Mike takes his vacation on Nantucket (hence the nautical style). Linda is now 101.

9. Seeing friends.

Everyone knows where I sit and friends who occasionally stop in always look for me here. I feel like Lucy behind her “Psychiatric Help 5 cents” sign—people are checking to see if the doctor is in! I even call it my office and that’s partly why I work so well here. When I leave home for the office, I am headed to work, so that’s what I do when I’m here. I even imagine an invisible glass door and feel like I’m inviting people into my office when they come up to chat or just to say hello.

10. The stranger.

One day a stranger came in and sat in the other chair, to my right. He was an older gentleman, someone who could have been a professor of some sort, with a worn tweed jacket and a brown wool scarf around his neck against the autumn chill. We nodded and smiled, acknowledging one another. As he sipped his coffee, I could see out of the corner of my eye that he was periodically looking over towards me. I got the sense he wanted to talk, so I pulled myself away from my work of the day to meet his gaze. As soon as I did, he immediately spoke, “Do you remember where you were on nine-eleven.” I only then realized that the day was indeed September 11. A bit odd to ask a stranger, but an apt question for the day. I explained to him how I had been home alone, how I had to pick up my kids, ages nine and five, from school and keep them from the news until my husband could get home and we could tell them together. He listened patiently. “How about you?” I asked. “How do you remember it?” “My son worked in the second tower,” he answered. At first I thought his son had died that day, but he continued to tell me how his son had not gone into his company’s new office at the World Trade Center but had stayed back in the old office that day. His life had been spared. Except the gentleman and his wife did not know this until much later in the morning. For several hours, they thought their son had died. Clearly, this memory was as fresh today as it was every September 11. The fear, the anxiety, the relief—all came flooding back. And he needed to share it with someone. I was so glad I gone into the office that day so I could offer an empathetic ear to the man’s story. I was glad he had stepped through the invisible door to my office. I’m glad he saw the “Psychiatric Help 5 cents” sign. And I’m glad I flipped over the sign to say “The Doctor is IN.”

You never know what will happen at Panera.